- Learning to recognize your own reflection in those you perceive as others. Your willingness to challenge your preconceptions. Self-examination. The process of learning to love yourself. Becoming your own best friend. The pursuit of universal truth in the face of billions who think and act otherwise. In the two-pole blame world, can one person’s hero be another person’s hurter? Is there any other definition of hero besides one that involves competition, revenge, battling monsters and sub-humans or deliberate and intentional harming of others?